I have been in a mess this past one week. Not because of the recent petrol price hike, or the rise in the global food price, but more on a personal level.
I feel suffocated.
I have been fasting since Tuesday- Yes, to puasa ganti, and at the same time, wishing that it'll help to clear up my mind a bit. To help me reflect the decisions that I've made in the past, and hoping that I'll make the right major, life decisions in the future.
I was in the labour room today, and had a chat with the most senior midwife there. She's a person that I highly respect and I take her judgement in managing patients seriously.
As we were talking, I asked her a random question, " What is your opinion when a doctor doesn't marry another doctor?" She gave a long pause before answering the question. And so she said..
"It's difficult to judge someone based on his/her profession. you will only discover more about the person once you're married to him/her."
And then she added..
"Lets say if you recently graduated from medical school and started working. You are not seeing anybody. Then you will tend to look for people in the same profession as you or in the same field as you. Same goes to your parents. They would want you to go out with someone who has the same career as you. If you have been going out with the person while u were still a student, then it's a different matter."
"You have been together with the person through thick and thin. You are very comfortable with the person and you share everything with him. The problems that you faced, the challenges that you go through and even very personal issues that you do not share with others. Then when you graduate, you don't really care where the other person graduated from or work as, because you have been happily together all this while."
"The bond that you both have will never be understood by others, and can only be appreciated by the both of you. When other people look at the couple they will think to themselves, how could the both of them end up together?"
My eyes were tearing upon listening to her words. I didn't even tell her about the problems that I was facing and yet she gave me the answer that I was looking for.
Thanks S/N Choo.
7 comments:
She was spot on. But she was wrong about one thing. I DO UNDERSTAND.
Full of wisdom.. full of advise.. and wit she said is totally true..
Wish you get wut you wish for soon :)
Mek, never regret wutever decisions you've made ok.. if it's wrong, then lesson learned.. if it's right, you'll be the most happy person in the world :)trust me on this one
kak ee, i'll be in ur team kay.. dun worry - cyiina :)
ajah n cyiina: thanks a lot dear cousins..makes a lot of difference when i know there's someone out there who understands my tight situation..
tino: doakan utk Ee k. Deep inside I know that I'm making the right decision. Just hope for the best..
apa kaitan antara cinta, kerjaya & perkahwinan? tak semestinya orang yg keje doktor kena kawin dgn doktor je, ataupun doktor kalau kawin dgn arkitek takkan bahagia. sama gak, doktor kawin dgn doktor pun tak semestinya akan kekal. apa bezanya? doktor+doktor = memahami? maybe benar, tapi tu tak menjamin pape - setakat memahami aje, mmg takkan cukup dalam perkahwinan...
kita hidup ni bukan setakat target sampai 'nak kawin' je, pastu dah, settle, habis cerita, aku bahagia - nope. perkahwinan tu satu permulaan je actually. 1st kita fight utk bercinta. pastu fight utk berkahwin. pastu fight utk ber-anak. pastu fight utk membesarkan anak2. etc. dalam mana2 pun stage kita berisiko & mungkin akan GAGAL. bukan sbb aku doktor, ko lawyer; atau aku doktor, ko doktor.
percaya pada takdir. percaya pada jodoh. percaya pada diri sendiri & pasangan.
its true - mak ayah nakkan kita bahagia. tapi kalau kita sendiri tak berasakan bahagia - camana? & kalau la bahagia tu bukan milik kita - camana? sbb mmg nyata dunia ni sementara. mak ayah takkan tau. kita sendiri takkan tau. apa sudahnya satu cerita - kita takkan tau!
orang yg saling mencinta & dapat restu pun boleh GAGAL. orang yg bercinta, dah kawin 30 tahun pun boleh KECUNDANG. ada orang yg nampak/rasa PERFECT bila bersama, tapi TAK KEKAL LAMA jugak bila dah berkahwin. kenapa agaknya? walaupun ia bergantung berat kpd cinta & restu, tapi ada yg lebih berat daripada tu sebenarnya. kalau yg berat tu dianggap bebanan, then terlangkup la kita. kalau yg berat tu dianggap tanggungjawab, then kita akan jadi makin kuat - Insya`Allah.
buat solat sunat, mohon petunjuk. mohon kekuatan & ketabahan. Dia lebih tahu apa yg terbaik utk kita, walaupun yg terbaik itu adalah sesuatu yg melukakan...
ok E, tino doakan E selalu..
Fight for wut u know and feel right wokeh ;)
yang penting, both u and mr gebbe (huhuhu) sangat memahami each other..
luck luck
xoxo
*sigh. haih... parok budok2 selangor nih. ddebey gi tukar jadi gebbe.. ngahahahahha...
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