I have been in a mess this past one week. Not because of the recent petrol price hike, or the rise in the global food price, but more on a personal level.
I feel suffocated.
I have been fasting since Tuesday- Yes, to puasa ganti, and at the same time, wishing that it'll help to clear up my mind a bit. To help me reflect the decisions that I've made in the past, and hoping that I'll make the right major, life decisions in the future.
I was in the labour room today, and had a chat with the most senior midwife there. She's a person that I highly respect and I take her judgement in managing patients seriously.
As we were talking, I asked her a random question, " What is your opinion when a doctor doesn't marry another doctor?" She gave a long pause before answering the question. And so she said..
"It's difficult to judge someone based on his/her profession. you will only discover more about the person once you're married to him/her."
And then she added..
"Lets say if you recently graduated from medical school and started working. You are not seeing anybody. Then you will tend to look for people in the same profession as you or in the same field as you. Same goes to your parents. They would want you to go out with someone who has the same career as you. If you have been going out with the person while u were still a student, then it's a different matter."
"You have been together with the person through thick and thin. You are very comfortable with the person and you share everything with him. The problems that you faced, the challenges that you go through and even very personal issues that you do not share with others. Then when you graduate, you don't really care where the other person graduated from or work as, because you have been happily together all this while."
"The bond that you both have will never be understood by others, and can only be appreciated by the both of you. When other people look at the couple they will think to themselves, how could the both of them end up together?"
My eyes were tearing upon listening to her words. I didn't even tell her about the problems that I was facing and yet she gave me the answer that I was looking for.
Thanks S/N Choo.